GAINING CLARITY

How do we obtain our goals if we don't first assess where we are now and have a CLEAR picture of where we are going in order to get to there. The most difficult part for most people is being honest about where they are (ie, getting on a scale before starting a diet) and knowing exactly where it is that they want to end up. How often have you changed your vision in your lifetime. Think of the times that you were very clear about what you wanted and the steps that took you there. Clarity is the key.

How can we gain clarity about our vision when we haven't even started to take the first essential steps toward exploring the possibilities? Clarity is the result of a process. Someone at lunch the other day said "I have always wanted to go to Tibet. It's my life dream to go to Tibet". So I said
"then set up the trip and go". But he went blank and looked at me as if I was speaking a different language. Maybe he doesn't really want to go, I don't know.

Some people are clear about their goals, but the majority aren't. It's more common than not for people to approach coaching, workshops or therapy with a vague notion of what they want. What people often say is that they seek "Clarity". Achieving it will be a relief. Connecting to our true vision will give us a feeling of "ahhhhhhhh that's it"! But we might have to take several steps to get there.

We might have a sense of what our vision is but
(1) it gets muddled with what we think it should be and
(2) We talk ourselves out of it.

We use our children, spouse, job, obligations and parents as an excuse for not going for it. We convince ourselves that we can't have our dream and we opt to come up with another plan that isn't really what we want but "will do". Then life becomes mediocre, we don't like what we're doing and we feel frustrated and angry at the people who we perceive as holding us back.

Pursuing possibilities is exhilarating and makes us feel like we are moving in the right direction. It can also create fear at the same time. Sitting with both excitement and fear is a good thing to get used to. As I become clearer about my own vision I realize that I have been moving in that direction all along and didn't even realize it. Feeling worthy of your dream is the first and most important step toward attaining it.



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Debbie Simon is a NY State Licensed Clinical Psychotherapist and Visual Guide