Feedback is just feedback, it isn't criticism and it isn't fact. Feedback is one person's opinion. Feedback can be distorted and it can be a projection but it can also be useful if it's given with good intentions. You know yourself better than anyone else does. People share their observations and opinions with you, whether you want to hear them or not. Sometimes it's useful and sometimes they are way off base. Ask yourself why this person is suddenly compelled to share this with you now. Stay grounded in who you are while listening to what they have to say.
Feedback is helpful when it's given in a supportive way. Supportive feedback will sound somthing like, "You're really good at that, if that's what you want to do I think you'll succeed" or, "you are a very determined person and I know that if that's what you want, you will achieve it because whatever you put your mind to, you accomplish."
When people feel it's necessary to remind of us weak moments and failures, their input becomes toxic. The people closest to us are sometimes our harshest critics. Their words have the power to hurt us more than anyone else's. Their opinion of us matters but not to the point that we have to give up on ourselves based on what they say. Know yourself well enough to know when the feedback you're getting is inaccurate and has more to do with the person giving it than with reality.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
FEEDBACK IS JUST FEEDBACK
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About Debbie Simon
- Creating Prosperity and Abundance in Your Life
- Avon, CT, United States
- I am a seasoned psychotherapist who has been on a spiritual journey. I believe in the intersection of spirituality and psychotherapy. The field of psychotherapy is rapidly changing and I am part of this change. The old traditional ways don't work anymore. I also do health coaching and have worked for programs at AETNA and ABILTO as a coach.
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